They can learn many life lessons from “playing the game” – good and bad
– taught or learned -by watching how other people play and react. How sad is it that children are
subjected to verbal abuse from the coaches, players and parents? How
constructive is it when instead of using a bad experience in a game to an
advantage - to teach the most basic of human skills; courtesy, cooperation,
fair play and mutual trust – they are subjected to bad behaviour and insults –
frankly bullying by team
members, parents and the coaches. Children learn from what they hear and what they see.
The good that can be learned from team sports:
Hard work
team work – cooperation-acting together towards a common goal
sportsmanship - to be happy with the success of others
learn to win and lose graciously
to do your personal best
courtesy
mutual TRUST
leadership
discipline
perseverance
work ethic
And so to the bad that can be learned:team work – cooperation-acting together towards a common goal
sportsmanship - to be happy with the success of others
learn to win and lose graciously
to do your personal best
courtesy
mutual TRUST
leadership
discipline
perseverance
work ethic
Bad
sportsmanship
bullying
abuse
negativity
As adults,
we cannot expect to lead others if we cannot first lead ourselves. We cannot
expect others do to what we will not do. Model the way with what you do and say
every day. And treat your team with the same respect and trust you expect from
them bullying
abuse
negativity
Teams need
motivation to keep getting better, and one of the best ways to provide
motivation is to celebrate team accomplishments and to talk about problems
without pointing fingers or allowing insults. What do kids learn about character, discipline, and
teamwork when they see adults acting this way? What do they learn about
commitment to stop bullying when their coaches and parents make rude remarks,
shouting insults and making snide remarks themselves?
What would
kids learn instead if they saw their coaches and parents modeling powerful,
respectful leadership by stopping inappropriate behavior with the same
commitment that they would stop someone from breaking the rules of the game?
What would they learn if their coaches and parents were supportive to them no
matter how they played? In other words, what if everyone acted like “good
sports” instead of “bad sports? The primary goal of participation in sports,
along with learning to play well should be character-building.
No matter how many games you play you cannot win them all. Wouldn’t it
be nice if at the level that our children are at, the adults would remember the well-known sentiment by sports
journalist Grantland Rice, that “it's not that you won or lost but how you
played the game," or the Modern Olympic creed expressed by its founder
Pierre de Coubertin: "The most important thing is not winning but taking
part". For our children, it should be after all a game – just a game – win
or lose.
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